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• Cover
• Title Page
• Introduction
• About This Book
• Foolish Assumptions
• Icons Used in This Book
• Beyond the Book
• Where to Go from Here
• Part I: Getting Started on Overcoming Codependency
• Chapter 1: Codependency Hurts
• What Is Codependency?
• Reviewing the History
• The Spectrum of Codependency
• The Stages of Codependency and Recovery
• Goals of Recovery
• Chapter 2: Somebody Please Tell Me What Codependency Is
• Defining Codependency
• The Core of Codependency — A Lost Self
• What Codependency Isn’t
• Chapter 3: Symptoms of Codependency
• Hidden Shame
• What Are My Rights and Limits?
• Depending on Someone Too Much
• Lack of Assertiveness
• Control and Caretaking
• Denial
• Painful Emotions
• Physical Symptoms
• Chapter 4: Crossing De-Nile to Recovery
• The Purpose of Denial
• Forms of Denial
• Types of Denial
• Recovery Builds Self-Awareness
• Chapter 5: So, Are You Codependent?
• Codependency Assessments
• Do You Exhibit Codependent Patterns?
• Have You Been Affected by Addiction?
• Part II: Breakthrough to Recovery — Healing Yourself
• Chapter 6: Getting Started in Recovery
• It’s Your Recovery
• Seeking Help and Support
• Be Patient with Yourself
• Must You Believe in God?
• Telling Others about Your Recovery
• Chapter 7: What Made You Codependent?
• Were You Loved for Who You Are? — A Psychodynamic View
• You’re in the Majority
• What Makes a Family Healthy or Not — A Family Systems View
• Chapter 8: Healing Your Wounds — Freeing Your Self
• The Wounded Child
• Grieving Losses – Feel to Heal
• Confrontations
• Healing Trauma
• Chapter 9: Welcome to the Real You
• Building an Internal Guidance System
• Getting to Know Yourself
• Being Your Authentic Self
• Chapter 10: Building Self-Esteem and Self-Love
• The Tyrannical Trio — the Critic, Pusher, and Perfectionist
• Feeling Good about You
• Self-Compassion and Self-Love
• Chapter 11: Finding Pleasure
• The Mind-Body Connection
• Play and Rejuvenate
• Uplift and Calm Your Spirit
• Meet Your Social Needs
• Part III: Healing Your Relationships with Others
• Chapter 12: Letting Go and Nonattachment
• Over-Involvement versus Nonattachment
• Self-Responsibility
• Helping Too Much
• Getting Triggered and Reacting
• Worrying and Obsessing
• Accepting Reality
• Tools for Letting Go
• Expect Pushback
• Chapter 13: Speaking Up
• Communicating Effectively
• Setting Boundaries
• Handling Conflict
• Chapter 14: Relating to Your Family, Friends, and Lovers
• Changing Your Dance
• Relating to Family Members
• Relating to Friends
• Becoming Counter-Dependent
• Dating
• Codependency and Sex
• Chapter 15: Making Relationships Work
• Recipe for Healthy Relationships
• Navigating Autonomy and Intimacy
• Intimacy
• Coping with Loneliness
• Part IV: Moving On and Maintaining Recovery
• Chapter 16: Following Your Bliss
• Author Your Life
• Manifest Your Passions
• Set Goals
• Chapter 17: Where to Get Help
• Twelve Step Meetings and Support Groups
• Psychotherapy
• Recommended Reading
• Emergency Numbers
• Chapter 18: Working the Twelve Steps
• Step One — Accepting Powerlessness
• Step Two — Finding Hope
• Step Three — Letting Go
• Step Four — Examining Ourselves
• Step Five — Sharing Our Shame
• Step Six — Accepting Ourselves
• Step Seven — Humbling Ourselves
• Step Eight — Identifying Who You’ve Harmed
• Step Nine— Making Amends
• Step Ten — Cleaning the Slate Daily
• Step Eleven — Staying Close to Your Higher Power
• Step Twelve — Practicing These Principles
• Chapter 19: Maintaining Recovery
• Recovery Is a Life Journey
• Getting Triggered
• Crossovers and Sequels
• Handling Slips
• Part V: The Part of Tens
• Chapter 20: Ten Ways to Love Yourself
• Have a Spiritual Practice
• Receive Support
• Meet Your Needs
• Have Fun
• Protect Yourself
• Accept Yourself
• Gentle Yourself
• Encourage Yourself
• Express Yourself
• Pursue Your Passions
• Chapter 21: Ten Daily Reminders
• Do Focus on Yourself
• Do Let Go
• Do Trust Your Experience
• Do Honor Your Feelings
• Do Be Yourself
• Don’t React
• Don’t Hurry
• Don’t Worry
• Don’t Try to be Perfect
• Don’t Isolate
• About the Author
• Author’s Acknowledgments
• Cheat Sheet
• Connect with Dummies
• End User License Agreement