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• The Inner Life of the Counselor
• Contents
• In That Place of Sanity: The Inner Life of the Counselor
• Author’s Note
• Some Questions to Consider at This Point
• 1: Creating Space Within
• Authenticity and Transparency
• Humility in Silence and Solitude
• Some Questions to Consider at This Point
• 2: Valuing and Accessing Alonetime
• Alonetime
• Recognizing, Honoring, and Appreciating More Fully the spaces in Daily Life
• Appreciating the Crumbs of Alonetime
• What are Some of the Crumbs of Alonetime?
• Some Questions to Consider at This Point
• 3: Recognizing the Cues of Subtle “Mindlessness”
• Appreciating Ways to be More Mindful So We Can More Easily Recognize When We are Not
• Appreciating Life in the Slow Lane: Some Additional Insights from Psychologists, Spiritual figures,
• Recognizing the Fruits of Being Mindfully Centered
• Guidelines for Inner Freedom
• Questions to Consider at This Point
• 4: Learning the Art of Leaning Back
• The Capacity to be Alone: Recognizing we are Not Used to Silence, Much Less Solitude
• The Psychological Capacity to be Alone
• What Actually is True Awareness and Mindfulness?
• Paying Attention Differently in Solitude
• Releasing Previously unaccounted-For Energy
• Creating Familiar Places of Solitude
• Simple Approaches to Formal Mindfulness Meditation
• Including Everything
• Going on Retreat: Periods of Dramatic Solitude
• Some Questions to Consider at This Point
• 5: Experiencing a New Type of Counselor Self-Nurturance
• Counselor Self-Nurturance
• Self-Care Protocol Questionnaire for Clinicians
• Patience and Knowing How to Pace Yourself
• Transparency
• Openness to, and the Release of, The Chains of Your Hurts
• Valuing Freshness and Feeding Inner Simplicity Through Greater Mindfulness
• Helpful Personal Debriefing: Modeling Stillness When Confronted with Our Emotions and Immature Motiv
• Employing Rituals of Inner Renewal
• Wasting Less Energy on Being Judgmental
• Having an Appreciation of Personal Gifts as Well as Related Growing Edges at Any Given Point
• Seeing Unproductive Views and Behaviors for What They are and Addressing Them Accordingly
• Being Continually Grateful for the Wonder, Awe, and Joy of Being a Counselor
• 6: Alonetime as a University: Honoring the Wisdom of Mentors of Mindfulness
• Commitment to Act
• Why Seek Such a Psychologically Costly Relationship?
• What are These People Like?
• Offers Acceptance and Space to Those Seeking Their Assistance
• Possess an Encouraging and Contagious Appeal
• Exemplify Extraordinariness, Humility, and Practicality
• Offers Perspective, Even in the Darkness
• A Sense of Un-Self-Consciousness
• Are You Able to be at Home in the Now?
• Living with the Questions and Instilling Patience in Ourselves
• Mentors of Mindfulness Also Don’t Get in the Way of What is Important
• Mindful Openness and Effort: Guiding Lights to New Freedom
• The Charism of the Guide
• Practice, Practice, Practice
• Some Questions to Consider at This Point
• Appendix: Retreat and Reflect: Enjoying a Fresh Experience of Your Own Inner Life
• A Brief Final Comment on a Counselor’s Inner Renewal in Alonetime
• About the Author
• Recommended Readings
• References
• Bibliography
• Permissions
• Acknowledgments
• Author Index
• Subject Index